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It's so true Micki! I'm 5 years out but always have the fear of reoccurrence in the back of my mind. Lately I've been thinking about next February when I'll complete my cycle of Tamoxifen. Maybe I'll lose the weight I've gained, but what about my cancer? Will it come back. It's scary even to see these words typed out! Then, I push it out of my mind and say, "I'll think about it next year." But, before you know if, next year will be here! Thanks for listening.
I couldn't agree with you more,as I am struggling with its overall ramifications right now as we speak. I am not as far into the process as you are - in fact, this past March 25th and April 11th were the 1st anniversaries of my diagnosis and lumpectomy. December 11th, 2009 will mark the 1st anniversary of my hysterectomy and salpingo-oophrectomy (removal of fallopian tubes and ovaries), which had to be done as it was my only option to prevent a b.c. recurrence. Tamoxifen was not an option for me because my cancer was hormone driven and the drug is a hormone/antihormone that could have given me uterine cancer instead.....In one year alone then, not only have I had to go through an endless array of sometimes painful diagnostic procedures on both breasts and in my uterus, but I have dealt with two surgeries, 4 weeks of radiation treatment - with fibromyalgia, whose effects add to the adverse effects of radiation treatment at its onset, coping with an exhausted immune system, instant menopause without hormone assistance obviously, and the scars...and the mounting rage I feel....and the desire I have to throw everything away...and the mounting impatience I have with everything and everyone, for my fury at my 25lb weight gain, for how life seems pristeen for some but not for me. Why?
My husband is worried. He actually sent me here since I have had literally no desire to seek support from any b.c. survivor's group since all of this started and I am becoming increasingly more enraged and distancing than before. My reaction to the group is actually quite unlike me as I am usually the first person to join the support bandwagon but this time? I don't know. I guess I am just not "feelin' it", as the kid's say. I joined a local group a few months ago and couldn't stand any of the women. Perhaps it was because we all were in our own version of shell shock from our cancer experience or perhaps it was something else that I cannot adequately articulate, but either way I couldn't stand any of them. Talking to them felt like I was talking to a brick wall...I felt no connection to any of them....it was as if we were all in our own cocoons. This was an oddity for me as I get along with everyone; have been in groups as a member, a facilitator and co-facilitator, but there? I was turned off. Now I am trying to reach out again.
Everything you both wrote could have been said by me. I think about the what ifs quite a lot...think about the cruel irony that I would be diagnosed with breast cancer at 52, the very same age my mother died from lung and bone cancer in 1975, think about the whys and whatfors. I try to be positive and am quite proactive for the most part...I am an event planner for an NYC college and have brought the American Cancer Society to the schools several times....I even won an award from the Student Government Association for sharing my experience. But lately, I feel adrift and tired, worn out and drained...little things set off chain reactions that are serious...Add financial problems to this...the need to sell my home, move, etc...and there I am. Raging.
Cancer is a loaded issue for me obviously. Resentment is looming larger than life.
Thanks for listening as I struggle to find the words and make sense of it all.
Hi...I feel like I am just getting to that point...My journey began April 2010...lumpectomy in June, radiation in Nov...and plus you all know of all the tests and scans in between all of that...I am E+...started out as stage 1, 2 cm no nodes...the 2 week path showed some nodes +..so the surgery was scheduled..all along looming in the back round was on "tiny" spot on my sternun that they wouldn't leave alone, but didn't think it was anything at my early stage...turns out it was positive. Through a PET scan it was in fact only in the one area, so it was radiated along with my breast...I am on long term medical care...at first I was given lupron to shut down my ovaries,, since then I had them removed...Now I am up to monthly infusions for my bones and PET scans every 3 months:(
I feel well and look fine, I am having trouble moving on...waiting for the next ball to drop. so when people ask how I am, I am thinking in my head "I have cancer"...
Any suggestions? Oh yea I tried a clinical support group...I couldn't get out of there fast enough. I thought I would enjoy talking to other people...but they were very intense and negative...Lori
Hi, Lori:
What helps me is doing healthy things that increase my chances of avoiding recurrence. Yoga has helped me a lot. It relaxes me, and it helps detox the body. Cooking healthy helps me feel a sense of control, too.
Lisa
www.pinkkitchen.info
Hi Lisa,
Thank you, that is exactly what I am doing. I started yoga about 6 weeks ago and I was going like it was my job, then I hurt my back. It is better now so I am taking it a bit slower (something I am not used to doing) It really taught me how to breathe again. I love it. I have always been a healthy eater but now I am taking extra care...lots of veggies, I pretty much vegan now almost no sugar either. You put it in a way exactly how I feel, more in control. I have been getting back to my walking/running and we are walking in The Avon walk in October, so I must be ready for that.
Thank you so much for responding,I hope to talk to you again...
Lori
Hi Lisa!
Thanks for asking. I am loving yoga! I am getting my strength back every day, I go several times a week. What are you up to? What's your story?
I just got back from a weekend in DC, my daughter graduated with her Masters in Public Health, she would like to work with cancer patients (where did that come from?) Brit is the one who encouraged me to start yoga and she is full of healthy eating ideas. She also just finished her 200 hours of yoga instruction!
Wow, a much better time then last year , as it has been 1 year since my diagnosis. I look forward to hearing from you.
Warmest,
Lori
Hi, Lori:
I love yoga too. I'm 3 years out, and I have a 12 year old daughter. She loves healthy food and helping me with Pink Kitchen (I have a booth at certain events, and Gabriella occasionally comes with me :)
Your daughter sounds great!
Lisa
www.pinkkitchen.info
Lisa
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