Yes, there is intimacy after Breast Cancer. As you learn more about your body and your
desires, be direct and specific. "Not now honey, I'm just not up to sex at
this moment." Or experiment "Let's not have intercourse, but please
hold me / please caress me / please massage me here / lets try intercourse even
if we have to stop." It may be easier to talk about sex when you
are not on the verge of starting it. Choose a time when you are settled in together
and in a neutral environment. Talking about sex may be new for you, but change can be
exciting.
The Shock Factor
I remember the day I was
diagnosed with Breast Cancer; my first thought was I am going to die! After I began treatment I realized that is
not always true and I am alive and well today.
Having Cancer at any age is a shock but you can get through it. Just the mere shock of a Breast Cancer
diagnosis can cause a loss in your libido let alone the toll surgery and
treatment can take. Work on ways to feel
more positive about yourself and your body.
Spend time with people who affirm who you are and how you have chosen to
deal with the disease. This will help
your self-esteem so you will feel better about yourself when you are in an
intimate situation.
It's Up to You
The
bottom line is, it is up to you and you need to listen to your body. It is normal to lose your libido during
treatment and it may take time to come back after treatment. It is important you communicate with your
partner and doctor’s about this so you can get the help you need.
Start
Moving
Yes,
it’s true exercise is good for your libido.
While you are checking out other solutions to your sexual concerns, try
to get back to a regular pattern of exercise. Do this gradually,
as you feel up to it. Exercise stimulates the production of
endorphins, which contribute to your sense of well-being.
Exercise has been shown to have a positive
effect on a person's sex life. Besides,
toning and limbering up your muscles will make you feel better about
yourself
and proud of your self-discipline. A
confident you is a sexier you!
As a
Breast Cancer Survivor since 2001, I understand what it feels like to go through
the range of emotions that can come with a Breast Cancer diagnosis. As a licensed counselor, I am dedicated to
helping women and families that have been affected by Breast Cancer. For more information, I invite to visit www.TouchedWithCancer.com.
I
wish you and your loved ones many blessings!
Lianne Avila, MA, MFT
